Seems like the 4 is just too powerful for my tank.
I say no such thing. You just aren't using it correctly. I have seen a 90G cube with oolithic sand (that is basically dust to you and I) and a wavemaker which had maybe 20-30x turnover per hour (I can almost guarantee that is more than you are working with). I am talking some raging current in the tank. The sand moved over the course of the day, but wasn't kicked up at all. Try moving it around, pointing it at the tank to deflect the force and create turbulent flow, putting some rocks to bounce the current off, something...
You rarely want strong laminar flow in your tank, which is what pumps and powerheads generate. Reef dwelling organisms are exposed to turbulent, chaotic wave motion and currents, and that turbulence is what the majority of your livestock will thrive in (unless you decide to start killing off sea fans, which some people seem to be into). Keep playing with it. More flow is most always better, especially in that 75G. You will have all sorts of "dead spots" when you get to aquascaping.